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I’ve been working with a woman who’s been telling me about the abuse she suffered in her strict family in Abu Dhabi.

When she finally found the courage to tell her mother what was happening to her, the reaction she got was denial and shame. Denial that this could ever happen and shame on the family if anything should come out about it.

flowerIt’s a common reaction, but hasn’t been widely talked about – as far as I can see – in Muslim communities.

There is a conference going on in Riyadh this week (and I’m trying to get a delegate to blog here for you) which is looking at this issue – and child marriage. You don’t have to make a great leap to see the connection.

This article in the Saudi Gazette talks about how a 10-year old girl was married off by her father and that “it is common for a married girl to become pregnant at an incredibly young age. “

If Sharia law allows child marriage, isn’t it also saying that having sex with a child is OK?

Last month, the grand mufti, Sheikh Abdul Aziz Aal Al Sheikh, is reported to have said,

“If a girl exceeds 10 or 12 then she is eligible for marriage, and whoever thinks she is too young, then he or she is wrong and has done her an injustice.”

handsDo you find these words – if said- shocking ? Or , as unpalatable as it may be, is he merely upholding tradition ?

There is though, news now of an acknowledgement that child abuse is actually going on. Princess Adela bint Abdullah (who’s dad is King Abdullah) is there at the conference.

Also some action – detailed here in the Arab News says girls are going to get training to counsel families about child abuse.

Unfortunately that help wasn’t available for the Your Story citizen journalist who is recording her experiences at the moment, as an abuse victim in Abu Dhabi. You’ll be able to hear her words in the next week or so.

In the meantime, if you’d like to talk about anything I’ve raised in this post, or have any experiences to share, then we’d both be interested in hearing it.